It’s impossible to go through a divorce without experiencing some anger. And usually you both experience resentment, abandonment, disillusionment, sadness, loneliness, guilt, and fear. Anger is a powerful emotion that requires a great deal of energy, adrenaline and resources. In some cases, the anger may consume you to the extent that you become stuck, unable to move forward. Or the toll anger takes drains all your emotional resources. It leaves you feeling depleted and unable to take action or use your energy in a productive way.
Unchecked anger can result in a lengthier, more hostile divorce process. It can lead to misdirecting your energy toward emotional retaliation, to inflict pain instead of working toward a healthy resolution. So it is vital for your own well-being to manage your anger before you can with the legal aspects of divorce. In a sense, you must first emotionally divorce yourself from your spouse. Without making this effort you run the risk of wasting time and money, adding to the emotional upheaval for you and your children. So don’t use valuable energy on establishing who is to blame. Don’t let anger sabotage your ability to make reasonable, sound decisions for yourself and your children.< /p>
By managing anger during the divorce process, you can regain a sense of control and emotional stability that helps you adust to a new chapter and look towards the future.
For more tips on making it through divorce, see our guides on the Alpha Resource Center site: New Beginnings
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