Mar 13, 2020
Divorce without Destruction and without Competing Divorce Attorneys
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What if, instead of trying to get as much as they can for the present, a divorcing couple worked toward preserving as much as they can for their futures? Divorce without destruction? What would that look like post-divorce?
Sustainable energy, sustainable agriculture, sustainable development
—focus on the health and well-being of future generations. A slash-and-burn mentality demolishes people and devastates economies. An adversarial divorce, with its “scorched Earth” attitude, devastates a family’s future. Many times this thinking is inherent when you hire a divorce attorney who relies on divorce litigation.
Consider the various “resources” at risk during divorce proceedings: time, money, energy, goodwill, equanimity and sometimes even health.
All of these are vital to sustaining the quality of life after divorce. As opposed to the “do-it-yourself” or “my-lawyer-versus-your-lawyer” models, consider divorce mediation. Alpha’s program offers an interdisciplinary, skilled team approach that provides a blueprint for moving ahead. It reduces stress in the now and conserves those resources that are critical to a healthy, positive future.
Sustainable Wellness: Reduce tension and stress.
Alpha’s attorney-mediators are experienced divorce attorneys who are committed to maintaining neutrality, yet make sure both parties’ needs and wants of are met. They can guide the couple to a good solution even when they have conflicts.
Sustainable Relationships: Build bridges.
A parenting mediator, who is also a certified therapist, helps the couple to create a healthy co-parenting agreement. This agreement includes living arrangements, school situations and vacation and holiday schedules so that both parents and children have a map to their new lives.
Sustainable Finances: Preserve resources and maintain separate, affordable lifestyles.
With accountant mediators and financial consultants as part of Alpha’s mediation program, a couple’s income and expenses, tax strategies and detailed require careful scrutiny to ensure that each person can reasonably meet their current financial obligations, as well as have a well-balanced financial structure in the future to cover their housing needs, cash reserves and retirement plans.
Most importantly, the choice to put a family’s future welfare above the individual’s will sustain peace of mind for all concerned for years to come.
Barbara Mainhart is the outreach coordinator for the Alpha Center for Divorce Mediation, headquartered in Doylestown and offering its divorce mediation program in multiple locations and online. For more information, call 800-310-9085, email AlphaCares@Alpha-Divorce.com, or visit our page on “Understanding Your Divorce Options“