Personal Affirmations: Replace Negative Self-Talk with Positive Statements during Divorce Recovery

Personal Affirmations: Replace Negative Self-Talk with Positive Statements during Divorce Recovery

Divorce shakes the very foundation of anyone going through it. Individuals who consider themselves strong and resilient are stunned by the toll divorce takes on their self-esteem. For once confident and joyful individuals, the destruction of a marriage leaves them with a profound skepticism of any goodness in the world. And completely crushes their self-confidence. An ex-spouse’s angry words, blame, or justification for betrayal woud, even when untrue. Trying to figure out how this all happened leads to consistently pessimistic thinking that leads to deep depression.

Healing takes a long time. Critical survival needs—financial, residential, occupational, and child custody issues — take center stage. So, emotional recovery often gets put on the back burner.

Telling yourself encouraging statement daily can be one way to diminish the sadness and anger. It can open the door to begin healing and to reestablish a sense of personal security, to restore trust in humanity and to rebuild self-confidence.

To reestablish a sense of personal security, try the following statements:

  • I am grounded.
  • I trust in myself.
  • I trust in others.
  • I am safe and secure.
  • I have exactly what I need.
  • I am exactly where I am meant to be.
  • I am strong.
  • I trust in my body’s ability to heal me.
  • I am supported.

As you redefine yourself as a single individual, say these affirmations:</p>

  • I go with the flow.
  • I am grateful that I am me.
  • I trust the way life unfolds.
  • I trust my intuition.
  • I experience and release my emotions in a healthy way.
  • I connect with others without losing who I am.
  • I allow pleasure, play, and sensuality into my life.
  • I am full of joy and spontaneity.
  • I am open to the beauty and gifts of the universe.
    • As you reengage with life with an open heart, give yourself these gifts:

      • I love myself exactly as I am right now.
      • I am enough and have enough.
      • My body is open to love and goodness.
      • My life is full of grace, beauty, and pleasure.
      • I am lovable and able to love.
      • I am abundant.
      • I am grateful for everything.

      Giving voice to these words is important. Focus on the affirmations that speak to you and bring a sense of peace and healing. Consider writing them on index cards and say them aloud twice a day. Within a week, you should feel the positive effect of these statements as they replace the overwhelming negativity. That is my hope for you as you reconnect with the beautiful soul that is you.

      By Deirdre Hally Shaffer, LCSW

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