Divorce shakes the very foundation of anyone going through it. Individuals who consider themselves strong and resilient are stunned by the toll divorce takes on their self-esteem. For once confident and joyful individuals, the destruction of a marriage leaves them with a profound skepticism of any goodness in the world. And completely crushes their self-confidence. An ex-spouse’s angry words, blame, or justification for betrayal woud, even when untrue. Trying to figure out how this all happened leads to consistently pessimistic thinking that leads to deep depression.
Healing takes a long time. Critical survival needs—financial, residential, occupational, and child custody issues — take center stage. So, emotional recovery often gets put on the back burner.
Telling yourself encouraging statement daily can be one way to diminish the sadness and anger. It can open the door to begin healing and to reestablish a sense of personal security, to restore trust in humanity and to rebuild self-confidence.
To reestablish a sense of personal security, try the following statements:
As you redefine yourself as a single individual, say these affirmations:</p>
As you reengage with life with an open heart, give yourself these gifts:
Giving voice to these words is important. Focus on the affirmations that speak to you and bring a sense of peace and healing. Consider writing them on index cards and say them aloud twice a day. Within a week, you should feel the positive effect of these statements as they replace the overwhelming negativity. That is my hope for you as you reconnect with the beautiful soul that is you.