Dec 21, 2022
What is Gray Divorce?
In 2004, AARP coined the term “gray divorce.” Since 1990, the rate divorce among the over 50 demographic has doubled. Current estimates project it to triple by 2030.
Debbie Y. Schneider, Esq., an Attorney at Alpha Center for Divorce Mediation discusses divorce after 50.
Experts say there are a whole host of reasons why this is happening, but there are 4 that everyone agrees are the primary reasons.
The first is the most obvious, and that is that we are all living longer. Life expectancy has increased for all segments of our society. People are paying attention to their physical wellness and many people remain healthy and vigorous for many years past what used to be the normal retirement age of 65. Along with physical wellness is emotional wellness. It has become much more acceptable to focus on our own happiness.
The second primary reason is that women are much more independent across all segments of our society. Women are better educated, and more widely employed in well-paying lifelong careers. Along with increased independence is an increased search for relationship satisfaction.
The third primary reason is that the family dynamic often changes when child-rearing is over. Child rearing requires a huge investment of time, energy and money. Once the children have reached a level of independence and don’t require the shared focus of both spouses, they may decide that this marriage is not so satisfying at all.
And the last primary reason seems to be the “shake-up” that accompanies retirement. For some people, facing retirement precipitates a crisis, that can often extend to a search for more meaning in one’s life. That can mean a relationship change and maybe a new spouse. People are seeking the “life they deserve.”
Alpha Center for Divorce Mediation