Sep 10, 2020

Dating While Divorcing: Fueling the Divorce Fire, Part 2

Cheating and Infidelity, Divorce Survival

Get Your Life in Order Before You Start Dating

When one spouse starts dating while the divorce is still pending, it creates a very volatile situation. Many times, one spouse wants out of the marriage and the other is being dragged through it without a choice. The person who wants the divorce is anxious to get on with their life so will often start hitting the dating sites before the divorce is concluded.

Avoid creating a bad financial situation

When working with these couples I often see how wounded people dig their heels in on financial matters just to slow things down in hopes that things will change or be motivated to seek revenge. As I have told many people over the years, “You can’t stop a divorce; you can only make it take longer and cost more”.

My recommendation is that you put off dating until the divorce is final if you can. If you can’t manage to do that, it is best to keep it very, very private while the divorce is pending. There is no need to add fuel to the fire if you can help it.

For more information on this topic, visit the blogs listed below:

New Relationships: Waiting Before Dating After Divorce
Before You Rewind and Remarry – Hit the Pause Button

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